High schoolers are at times, unfortunately, the most emotionally distraught people around. The time of your body maturing and hormones kicking in are all a cause to changes of mood and what you deem as important. Teenagers have hundreds of problems they have every day. Some are just vain like what should I wear, how should I do my hair, do I really like that person, etc. This goes for both sexes and in many cases is just something we accept as part of that time of their life. But, there are other smaller problems like relationships. For the people who are in one, hope to stay in one. But for those who aren’t, they wish to get one as soon as possible.Granted, not all people go through this, but this is meant to focus on the majority who do. So, let’s begin.

There seems to a correlation in some that they need to be in a relationship to be happy. That’s just not true, because you should be happy regardless of that. In a sense, this is a petty problem, but it’s amplified by a body that’s evolving and can’t control its emotions to save their life. So, you get in a situation where a small problem, becomes the biggest issue in the world, which you feel and deal with every day. You must realize, however, that you shouldn’t rely on someone else for happiness or feel needed to be in a relationship to feel the same way. At this age, we are too young to really know how to handle a relationship, at least for some.Some relationships are pointless because there is a possibility that one of the people involved is more invested in it than the other. This leads to someone always ending hurt. If we are young, inexperienced, and can’t rationally make a decision, then why do people want to be in one? Well, it’s not always that simple to answer, isn’t it?

 It’s almost an unwritten rule to be in one, subconsciously entranced in the minds of many high schoolers and teenagers, that a relationship brings you happiness. They may see other people walking around looking happy with a significant other. This makes them think, “ Why is that them and not me?” or “ I wish I had that”. There’s nothing wrong with being like that , unless jealousy consumes you and you begin to think how unlucky you think you are. Then, it becomes a much bigger problem that only serves to make yourself feel bad. It almost as if you feel a pressure to find happiness by being in a relationship. Maybe it works out and you are happy, but what happens when it ends and you end up right where you started?

Now, it’s maybe just a law of life that this will occur. It quite possible simply an inevitability, but you can and should find what makes you, you. Find out what makes you happy and make decisions based off who you are and don’t compromise your self worth for others. If you were in a relationship and your partner didn’t treat you fairly, then don’t try to return to them. Discover your self worth and have dignity in yourself. Be happy with or without a relationship. There will be a day you actually find the one person you will be with for long time. But for now, just wait and enjoy yourself. If you ever see someone you once like with another person, just remember, its highschool and they probably won’t last forever. You should always remember that, our parents always told us to give our toys to those people less fortunate than us, so don’t be jealous when you see them. Be happy for what you have in your life right now, not what you think you are missing.